Since I will be pinned here in New York for my grandfather’s funeral, I was asked to write some words to be read. This is what came to me.
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“Work harder,” he would say. “You’ve got to let everyone see how hard you are working. Never let anyone see you sitting down or wasting time… keep it up.”
For some strange reason these are the enduring words of my Grandfather. Maybe it’s because of the timeless wisdom, the straightforward, tough-love encouragement. Or maybe it’s because when he told me this I was ten years old. Digging trenches to put a sprinkler system in somebody’s front yard. In the summer. Ten years old.
Some of you may know him as Shig, John, maybe even Juan. But to me, he was “Gichan.” Gichan wouldn’t want me to make this sappy, or dreary, and if my father has shown me anything by example, he certainly wouldn’t have wanted it to be lengthy. Tears and sad words are outright.
Allow me then to speak for a minute about what Gichan taught me. He taught me many lessons, though like all good lessons, I would have no idea at the time what he was talking about. Only recently have I been able to realize what he was telling me, or rather the example that he set for me.
I’ll never know exactly what happened up at the base of Mt. Whitney over sixty years ago. I was never able to truly gain a vivid picture of what life was like there, of what they went through, or what was going through his mind those years. The stories I heard were mostly of the years after the camps… of the successes and struggles of making a new life, and climbing back to the top. Starting from scratch.
Perhaps because of this, Gichan was and always had been a hard worker. I don’t think that he was ever trained in anything he did, yet he was a welder, a carpenter, a plumber, a painter, a mechanic, a gardener, and a proficient master of the ancient Japanese art of KA-RA-O-KE. The latter, perhaps we could have done without, though the karaoke machines and video cameras did have an important place in my formative years as a wee-young-sound technician. What I am trying to say is that my Grandfather taught me how to hustle. If anyone ever asked him, “Do you know how to…” the answer was always a reassuring, “YES.” He would figure out how to ACTUALLY do it as he went.
Whether I was mowing a lawn, sweeping, or operating a leaf blower (again, I was probably much too young to be doing any of these things…) he made sure I was always working hard. Back then I didn’t really care… I just wanted to make him happy. But today, I know that he was teaching me to be proud of myself. To take pride in what I do. He was teaching me that life is more than just a set of tasks. Life is NOT a bitch. Or maybe for some it is, because LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE OF IT. That is what Gichan would have wanted you to hear today. YOU ARE NOT A PASSENGER. It is not enough to stop and smell the roses. Turn the earth, plant a seed, water it, watch it grow, and THEN, when you have done the work, you can of your labor. THAT is what he taught me.
“Scotty the great,” he would call me. As if I was some kind of child-superhero. “Boy, you’re the greatest…” he would tell me. I didn’t believe him at the time… but I know what he was trying to tell me. He was telling me this:
Never TRY to be your best. He would never have said that. BE the best. And if you believe that you are the greatest, and that you are all you can be, then you are. Period.
Gichan…. thank you.